Self – Love and how to own it!
No one on this planet is like you! You are unique and rare, and when something is rare it is valuable!
This is the thought process we need to have when valuing and loving our own self.
Self-love is defined as ‘regard for one’s own well-being and happiness’. It’s not about being vain, self-centred or narcissistic, it’s about loving you for all you are, owning it and not being answerable to anyone about it. Self-love is the foundation of good mental health and life satisfaction.
If we all know the term ‘Love your neighbour as you love yourself’, then why do we so often invest more care in others than we do for ourselves?
When was the last time you did something just for you, something that was 100% your decision, for you and no one else?
Unfortunately for most this is actually a really hard question to answer.
For many of us, we are existing in a pattern of searching for love externally. It’s so interesting to think about. By checking in on unconscious behaviours that shape our personal wellbeing we regain our control and awareness. Why place that power of personal validation in other hands when you should be holding it tightly in your own?
Think to yourself all the things that people can do to show you that they love you. Maybe it’s doing something special for you for no reason, maybe it’s giving you a compliment or surprising you with a bunch of flowers, or maybe it’s hearing them speak lovingly about you, to you and to those around you?
We crave these things from others to feel love, but when was the last time we did them for ourselves?
Pay attention to the inner dialogue you tell yourself all day every day. Would you stay friends with someone who constantly spoke to you like that? It’s time to be our own best friends and nourish our own wellbeing with the love and self-care we give to everyone else.
By claiming back the reins of self-love we remove the vulnerability and neediness we have on others. Inner self-love can’t be taken from us. When you are beyond requiring external approval you generate a positive energy that ironically draws more love towards you.
Top 10 tips for practicing Self-Love
- Be kind to yourself – be the best friend you are to others.
- Practice gratitude and be mindful of the fact that we are all doing our best.
- Be patient – Implementing a change in habitual behaviour takes time and you’re worth it.
- Pay attention to your inner dialogue. When you notice negativity, flip it to the positive.
- Accept compliments and remember them!
- Speak up for yourself and don’t be afraid to say no. It’s all about how you say it.
- Have an ‘All about me day’ and do whatever you want!
- You are uniquely you! Don’t waste time comparing yourself to others.
- Trust your own intuition, act in your own best interest and maintain boundaries.
- Be proactive about what you want. Don’t wait for others to show you, love – give it yourself.
Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. Veronica A Shoffstall
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